
Getting disvirgined should be
handled as a big deal. You really don't want to face regret a few hours,
days or years after losing it, which is why it's best you wait until
you are totally ready.
One thing to know is that,
having sex will never change you as a person and several others things
about your relationship status will never change after you lose your
virginity.
Holly Riordan of All Women Stalk lists a few things that never changes about you after having sex for the first time:
Your body: If
you haven't already broken your hymen by playing sports, then your
"cherry is going to pop" when you have sex for the first #time. However,
other than that, your #body isn't going to change at all. Your vagina
acts like a rubber band, so it isn't going to become loose after you
have sex. Your body will #look the same as it always did, so there's no
reason to be afraid of "ruining" it.
Your relationship status: You
should never sleep with someone in the hopes that they'll end up dating
you after the fact. Unfortunately, some #men are only interested in
sex. While sleeping with a guy could potentially change your
#relationship, it probably won't. So don't assume that he'll suddenly
love you if you take your clothes off for him. If he doesn't like you
before you sleep together, he won't like you after you sleep together.
Your value: You
might've been taught that pure women are more valuable than sexually
active #women. However, losing your virginity doesn't make you more or
less attractive, and it certainly doesn't make you more or less
valuable. You're still the same person, so your value hasn't gone up or
down.
The way others view you: You're
not going to be shunned by society after having sex. You're not going
to become the most popular kid in school after having sex, either. After
all, no one will even know that you're sexually active unless you or
your #partner tells them. That means you'll be viewed the same way as
you always were.
Your feelings:
After you have sex with someone, your feelings for them probably won't
change. If anything, they'll end up becoming more intense. So if you
want to sleep with a #guy in order to get over him, it's not a great
idea. If you liked him before you had sex, you'll only end up liking him
even more after you have sex.
Your morals: As
long as you're completely ready (and old enough) to deal with the
repercussions of having sex, you shouldn't feel bad about losing your
virginity. Being sexually active doesn't mean that you're immoral.
Stealing, cheating, and using drugs are all worse crimes. If having
mature, protected sex is the worst thing that you're doing, you can give
yourself a pat on the back.
Your personality:
Having sex might boost your confidence, but it's not going to change
you into an entirely different person. You're still you. So don't expect
your life to change after sleeping with someone. For the most part,
#things will stay exactly the same as they always were.